DIALOGUE

priest/religious question:
"After I have had an argument with one of my people or my superior, what is the most positive that that comes out of it? HDIFAMA?"

"How do I feel when you do something that disrupts my plans? Describe in loving detail."

"Do I accept myself? Why or why not? HDIFAMA?"

"What is most likely to cause a disagreement when we are trying to make a decision? HDIFAMA?"

"In times of trouble, where do I look first for help, you or God? HDIFAMA?"

"In times of trouble, where do I look first for solace, you or God? HDIFAMA?"

"In times of trouble, where do I look first for comfort, you or God? HDIFAMA?"

"Am I more likely to voice my discontent and disapproval, or do I hold my tongue to avoid causing problems? HDIFAMA?"

"What is my mask when we have an argument? HDIFAT?"

"HDIF when we disagree in front of others?"

"HDIF when I see anger or annoyance on your face?"

"Do I ever change what I write or say to avoid conflict or argument? Why? HDIFAMA?"

"What is the best thing for me to do when I get angry? HDMAMMF?"

"How do I feel when you take up too much of my time? HDMAMMF?"

"What negative attitudes and behaviors do I display during difficult situations or periods? How do I feel about this?"

couple question:

"What do I need from you when we are trying to get through a difficult situation or period? How do I feel sharing this with you?"

priest/religious question:
"What do I most need from my people when I/my people are trying to get through a difficult situation or period? How do I feel about my answer?"

"After a fight, is it easy or hard for my to ask for forgiveness? Why? HDIFAMA/"

"What feelings do I have about selecting dialogue questions that appear difficult? HDIFA sharing this with you?"

"What are the topics I avoid in dialogue? What are my feelings about my answer?"

couple question:

"What do I need from you when we are trying to get through a difficult situation or period? HDIF sharing this with you?"

priest/religious question:
"What do I most need from my people when I/my people are trying to get through a difficult situation or period? HDIFAMA?"

"What are the topics I avoid in dialogue? What are my feelings about my answer?"

"Do I ever change what I write or say to avoid conflict or argument? Why? HDIFAMA?"

"What do I dislike most about myself when we fight? HDIFAMA?"

priest/religious question:
"What do I dislike most about myself when I fight with one of my people? HDIFAMA?"

"How do we usually handle conflict in our relationship? HDIFAMA?"

priest/religious question:
"How do I usually handle conflict with my people? HDIFAMA?"

"How do I feel when someone interrupts me while I am talking to you? Describe in loving detail."

priest/religious question:
"How do I feel when someone interrupts me while I am talking to one of my people? Describe in loving detail."

"How do I feel just before I tell you something I don't think you will like? Describe in loving detail."

priest/religious question:
"How do I feel just before I tell one of my people something I don't think they will like? Describe in loving detail."

"How do I feel when your needs seem to be in conflict with mine? Describe in loving detail."

priest/religious question;

"How do I feel when God's Will seems to be in conflict with my needs? Describe in loving detail."

"When we have disagreements on Retrouvaille, do I/we play fair, or fight dirty? HDIFAMA?"

"What comments about myself am I most likely to take personally? HDTMMF?"

"How do I feel when someone insults one of my ideas? Describe in loving detail."

"What is most likely to cause a disagreement when we are trying to make a decision? HDIFAMA?"

priest/religious question:
"Is there a decision that I have made recently that I perceive my people have disagreed with? HDIFAT?"

"What is the biggest challenge facing us this week? What can I do to help you through it? HDIFAMA?"

priest/religious question:
"What is the biggest challenge my people and I this week? What can I do to help them through it? HDIFAMA?"

In what area do we have hurt in our relationship? HDIF sharing this with you?

Do I sometimes provoke fights even if I don't start them? HDIFAMA?

How do I feel when I would like to say no, but don't think I can? Describe in loving detail.

"How do we usually deal with conflict in our relationship? HDIFAMA?"

priest/religious/all question:
"How do I usually deal with conflict in my relationships? HDIFAMA?"

"How do I feel when I/we are in a hurry to leave, and someone stops by and wants/needs to talk? Describe in loving detail."

"How do I feel when we are torn between our families?"

"How can we avoid non-productive fights? HDIFTYT?"

"Is fighting a constructive means of communication between us?"

"After conflict, am I still feeling hurt? DYFID?"

"After a fight am I still pretending not to care? HDIFAT?"

"HDIF when we argue because we remember things differently?"

"HDIF when we negotiate a compromise between us?"

"After our last fight, who got hurt? How? HDIFAT?"

"We tend to compete against each other in _______ . HDIFAT?"

"HDIF when I try holding my temper?"