"How do I feel when we spend a day with our extended families? Describe in loving detail."
"As a child, who was I closest too, and why? HDIF sharing this with you?"
"Do I (Did I) love my parents just because I respect them for all they've done (did) for me, or is there more to it? HDIFAMA?"
"How do I feel about spending time with your/my family? Describe in loving detail."
"How do my childhood dreams of growing up compare to what I am now? HDIFAT?"
"How do I feel about our current level of involvement with our families? Describe in loving detail."
"How are my parents still influencing my life? HDIFAMA?"
"One thing I missed out on in my childhood was... HDIFAMA?"
"How well do I live up to the dreams I had for myself when I was young? HDIFAMA?"
"Do I harbor hurts, grudges, or hard feelings from past injuries? HDIFAMA?"
"What does Valentine's day mean to me? HDIF sharing this with you?"
"What expectations do I have for Valentine's day? HDIFA sharing this with you?"
"What effect has growing up experiencing my parents' relationship had on our relationship? What good things have come from it? HDIFAMA?"
"What effect has growing up experiencing my parents' relationship had on our relationship? What not so good things have come from it? HDIFAMA?"
priest/religious question:
"What effect did my family's ideas, experiences, etc. of priest/religious life have upon me and the way I lead my life now? HDIFAMA?"
"Do I see myself living the same as my parents or differently? HDMAMMF?"
"How do I feel remembering a time when I was in trouble as a child? HDIF sharing this with you?"
"Who in my childhood most affected my life? HDTMMF?"
"How does my/our relationship with my/your parents affect us? HDIFAT? (You may want to pick one set of parents the first night, and the other the following night.)"
priest/religious question:
"How does my relationship with my parents affect me? HDIFAMA?"
"Do I spend enought time with relatives? HDIFAMA?"
"HDIF when I realize my spouse's family's problems become my problems & vice versa?" HDIFTYT?"
"What are my feelings when my family's aging and health related problems become our concern? HDIFTYT?"
"Am I afraid that my parent's health problems (Alzheimer's, osteoporosis, heart disease) will eventually manifest in me as I age? HDIFTYT?"
"How have our in-laws contributed positive/negative change to our family? HDIFAT?"
"When was the last time I thanked my mother for being a mom?"
"We are blessed by the love of our families. HDIFAT?"
"Am I more like my mother or my father? HDIFAT?"