DIALOGUE

"What do I do that I think helps bring us closer together? HDIFAMA?"

"What do I control that I should give up to help improve our relationship? HDIFAT?"

"God's greatest treasure is you." HDIFAT?"

"How do I feel when there is no time in the day (week) for us? Describe in loving detail."

"If I could go back and record any moment from our past so we could watch it from time to time, what would it be and why? How do I feel remembering this? How do I feel about it now?"

"What little annoyance(s) have I tried to accept but haven't been able to, yet I haven't talked to you about? HDIFAT?"

"Are there any hurts between us that need to be healed of before our relationship can continue to grow? HDIFAMA?"

"How do I feel when you are frustrated or angry with someone or something else, but you take that frustration or anger out on me? Describe in loving detail."

"How do I feel when you change your mind after we've agreed on something, or made a decision on something? Describe in loving detail."

"How do I feel when I see you cry after watching a movie together? Describe in loving detail."

"How do I feel when we have to work together on a project? Describe in loving detail."

"How have we grown as a couple over the last year? HDIFAMA?"

"How do I feel when I realize I've done something thoughtless and hurt you? Describe in loving detail."

"What could I do to help you understand me better? HDIFAMA?"

"What is my favorite memory of us from last year? HDIF sharing this with you?"

"With what aspect of our relationship am I most comfortable? HDIF sharing this with you?"

"What are my most important values for our relationship? HDIFAMA?"

"What keeps us together as a couple? HDTMMF?"

"What would I say most represents a symbol of our loving relationship? HDIFAMA?"

"Do we share the responsibility for making decisions? Explain. HDIFAMA?"

"What non-verbal expression, gesture, or behavior of yours do I most often rely on to help me understand how you feel? HDIF sharing this with you now?"

"Do we have things I consider to be only mine? HDTMMF?" (clothing doesn't count)

"Am I satisfied with our relationship? If so, should I be? If not, why? HDIFAMA?"

"How and when did I appreciate your beauty this week? HDIF sharing this with you now?"

"How did our relationship reflect God's love today? HDIFAMA?"

"In what areas am I least responsive to you? HDIFAMA?"

"It is easier to leave angry words unspoken, than to mend a heart those words have broken.' -- unknown author Lately, have I said any words that were angry and may have hurt you? HDIFAMA?"

"How does our schedule affect our relationship? HDMAMMF?"

"How much of a couple do I really want to be, and what am I willing to change to be that couple? HDMAMMF?"

"What is the best way you support me in our relationship? HDTMMF?"

"What is my most sacred memory of our wedding day? HDTMMF?"

"Do I see death as an end to our love relationship? HDTMMF?"

"How do I still let my mask prevent me from putting you number one? HDTMMF?"

"What changes do I have to make to make you number one? HDIFAT?"

"What is our best quality as a couple? HDIFAT?"

"HDIF knowing that we will always have to work for real closeness in our relationship?"

"HDIF when you make a sacrifice for me?"

"HDIF about the direction our life together is taking?"

"When do I feel closest to you? HDIFAMA?"

"Do I believe you when you reveal my goodness? HDMAMMF?"

"In what area do I most need your help in living as a sacramental couple? HDIF sharing this with you?"

priest/religious question:
"In what area do I most need my people's help in living my sacrament/calling? HDIFAMA?"

"What advise would I give a young bride or groom (pick one)? How do I feel about this?"

"Why did I marry you? Why do I stay married to you? HDIFAMA?"

priest/religious question:
"Why did I take my vows? Why do I keep my vows? HDIFAMA?"

"How do I feel about the way our marriage influences those around us? Describe in loving detail."

priest/religious question:
"How do I feel about the way my ministry influences those around me? Describe in loving detail."

"What do I find most attractive about you? HDIF sharing this with you?"

priest/religious question:
"What do I find most attractive about religious life? HDIFAMA?"

"What stage of love do I think we are in (Romance, Disillusion, Misery, Joy)? HDIFAMA?"

priest/religious question:

"What stage of relationship am I in with my people, (Romance, Disillusion, Joy)? HDIFAMA?"

"How do I feel about marrying you every day? Describe in loving detail."

priest/religious question:
"How do I feel about being ordained/taking vows every day? Describe in loving detail."

"What is my typical behavior when dealing with a hard time in our relationship? HDIFAMA?"

priest/religious question:
"What is my typical behavior when dealing with a hard time in my life? HDIFAMA?"

"What is most appealing to me about being married? HDIFAMA?"

priest/religious question:
"What is most appealing to me about being religious? HDIFAMA?"

"In general, do I give you more criticism or praise? HDIFAMA?"

"Are we still striving for a deeper loving marriage, or have we stopped because we judge we've done enough? HDIFAMA?"

priest/religious question:
"Am I still striving for a deeper more loving relationship with my people, or have I stopped because I judge I've done enough? HDIFAMA?"

"When I feel sad, angry, frustrated, etc. (pick one, or one of your own) what is the best thing you can do for me? HDIFAMA?"

"What power do I hold over you that may be a barrier to our relationship? HDIFAMA?"

priest/religious question:
"What power do I hold over my people that may be a barrier to me growing closer to them? HDIFAMA?"

"How do I feel about our marriage as a sign of love to others? Describe in loving detail."

priest/religious question:
"How do I feel about my sacrament as a sign of love to others? HDIFAMA?"

"What have I given up for our relationship that has helped me grow as a person? HDIF about this?"

"What have I given up for our relationship that has held me back in my development as a person? HDIF about this?"

priest/religious questions (2):
"What have I given up for my calling that has helped me grow as a person? HDIF about this?"

"What have I given up for my calling that has held me back in my development as a person? HDIF about this?"

"What helps me learn the most about you? (i.e. dialoguing, making love, sharing our days, quiet time together, etc.) HDIF sharing this with you?"

priest/religious question:
"What helps me learn the most about my people? HDIFAMA?"

"With what aspect of our relationship am I most comfortable? HDIF sharing this with you?"

priest/religious question:
"When am I most comfortable serving my people? HDIFAMA?"

"What could I do to help you understand me better? HDIFAMA?"

priest/religious question:
"What could I do to help my people understand me better? HDIFAMA?"

"How do I feel about the time we spend together and the quality of it? What would I like to change if I could? HDMAMMF?"

"How do I feel when you are frustrated or angry with someone or something else, but you take that frustration or anger out on me? Describe in loving detail."

"What is my favorite memory of us as a couple? (without children, just you and your spouse) How do I feel thinking about this? HDIF sharing this with you?

"On a scale of 1-10, where would I like our relationship to be? On the same 1-10 scale, where is our relationship now? HDIF about this? What can I do in the next week to bring our relationship closer to a 10?"

"What feelings do I have when I think about us being apart for several days? HDIF sharing this with you?"

"What challenges did I face today in making you the center of my life? How do I feel about this? HDIF sharing this with you?"

"When did I realize that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with you? How do I feel recalling this? What are my feelings sharing this with you?"

"Are we as close to each other as we were just after our Retrouvaille weekend? HDIFAMA?"

priest/religious question:
"Am I as close to my people as I was just after my Retrouvaille weekend? HDIFAMA?"

"What one thing do you do that helps bring me closest to you? HDIF sharing this with you?"

priest/religious question:
"What one thing do my people do that helps bring me closest to them? HDIFFAMA?"

"How do I feel about spending the rest of my life with you?"

priest/religious question:
"How do I feel about spending the rest of my life at my current parish?"

"Are we as close today as we used to be? HDIFAMA?"

priest/religious question:
"Am I as close to my people as I used to be? HDIFAMA?"

"When was I most aware of you today? HDIFAMA?"

priest/religious question:
"When was I most aware of my people today? HDIFAMA"

"How can I be more aware of the unique goodness and worth of my spouse?" HDMAMMF?"

"How can I delight in my spouse's goodness without trying to possess him/her? HDMAMMF?"

"What is one of the greatest moments of our marriage? HDIF sharing this with you?"

priest/religious question:
"What is one of the greatest moments of my priesthood/etc.? How do I feel recalling this?

"What do I seek in our relationship? HDIF sharing this with you?"

priest/religious question::
"What do I seek in my relationships with my people? HDIFAMA?"

"Where do I feel most alone in our relationship? How have I communicated this with you? HDMAMMF?"

"Why do I want to make you number one in my life? What stands in my way? HDIF sharing this with you?"

"In what area of my life am I living as a married single? HDTMMF?"

"How do I feel about our relationship today compared to before our weekend? HDIF sharing this with you?"

"What kind of a 'sign' do I think we have been to others this week? HDTMMF?"

"How do I feel about us being important to the church and the world? HDIF sharing this with you?"

"Do I compare our relationship to those around us? HDIFAMA?"

priest/religious question::
"Do I compare my relationship with my people to other priest/religious with their people? HDIFAMA?"

"Are we equal partners in our decision making? HDIFAMA?"

priest/religious question::
"Do I consult with my people when a decision that effects them needs to be made? HDIFAMA?"

"Our marriage is a sign of Christ's Love. How do I think others experienced our sign today? HDTMMF?"

"What is my fondest memory of our wedding day? HDIFAT?"

"What is my reaction to seeing couples we know and love working on their relationships? HDIFAT?"

"In the last week, in what way have I been most supported by you? HDTMMF?"

"How have we shared our relationship with other people in our community, parish, and neighborhood this week? HDIFAT?"

"What talents do we have as a couple? HDIFAMA?"

"What do I perceive to be the biggest threat to our relationship? HDIFSTWY?"

priest/religious question::
"What do I preceive as the biggest threat to my priesthood/ministry/etc.? HDIFAMA?"

"Why did I marry you? HDIF sharing this with you now?"

priest/religious question::
"Why did I take my vows/become ordained/take up my ministry/etc.? HDIFAMA?"

"How do I fel about the way our marriage influences other people? DILD."

priest/religious question::
"How do I feel about the way my priesthood/etc. influences other people? DILD."

"How do I feel when we look at pictures from our wedding? DILD."

priest/religious question::
"How do I feel when I look at pictures from my ordination/taking vows/etc.? DILD."

"On a scale of 1-10, I would rate the health of our marriage a... HDIFSTWY?"

priest/religious question::
"On a scale of 1-10, I would rate the health of my ministry/priesthood/brotherhood/parish/etc. a... HDIFAMA?"

"What one thing has most united us this past week? HDIFAT?"

"During an average week, what activities enhance our relationship?"

"What do I enjoy about our relationship right now? HDMAMMF?"

"We had hopes for each other on our wedding day. HDIFAT now?"

"In what ways are you still a mystery to me? HDIFAT?"

"Do we still court each other? HDIFAT?"

"WAMF when I think about us 10 years from now?

"Have we grown or slipped backward in our relationship this week? HDIFAT?"

"In an average week, what activities work against our relationship?"

"Am I doing better accepting you as you are? DYFILD."

"In what way do I try to modify my behavior to please you? HDIFAT?"

"How can we put more fireworks into our marriage?"

"HDIF when I know someone is cheating on their wife/husband?"