Nope, this is not an article on polyamorous relationships. It’s actually about pronouns.
November 14, 2020 by Brian Byrne
Six years ago, my wife and I started presenting for Retrouvaille, a program for troubled marriages. We are not qualified counselors. The primary qualification is going through a Retrouvaille program and coming out the other side still married.
Apart from the more structured presenting, we informally talk to a lot of couples. We don’t try to address their problems, but we do listen for parallels to our own issues and talk about what we did to either get past them or what we do to keep working on our relationship challenges today.
After one long conversation that lasted close to an hour, the other couple went back to their room and I turned to my wife and said, ‘What was that woman’s name?’ Neither of us knew. We had to look in the registration list to figure it out. A person in a supposedly committed relationship had referred to his spouse over a dozen times and never mentioned her name.
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